The other night I was talking to my mom about the latest gossip within my friends. She asked who so and so were dating, or if they were crushing on anyone. As we were sitting there I realized how many different ways the younger generation classifies relationships. My mom and I started talking about it and I had to explain what the different levels of a relationship were.
o Like: If someone “likes” someone else, they merely like them as a person or a friend. This term is not to be confused with liking or like-liking someone.
o Like and Like-liking: If a person likes or like-likes someone they have feelings for, or have a crush on, that person. When you like-like someone you most likely tell your best friend or the person you value your trust with the most. Sometimes you just come right out to the person you like-like and say it.
o Talking: If two people are “talking”, that means that they are flirting back and forth to each other and show somewhat interest with each other. Now, what flirting is varies on the person. They may not intentionally flirt with someone; it may just come off that way. I happen to be a “flirty” person; not intentionally of course, I just have a bubbly personality.
o A Thing: If two people have a “thing”, it is a step up from talking. The two people have acknowledged to each other that they like-like, or have feelings for, the other person. There are two different kinds of “things”; the public kind and the secret kind. Some people prefer to not make their “thing” known, in order to preserve the early stages of relationship development. The public things are known to almost everyone. Things do not have a set amount of time they last. Two people could have a thing forever and never take that step in making a relationship. A thing could be similar to having an open relationship, but to some people it is more exclusive.
o Dating: When two people are “dating” they are in a relationship. This is not to be confused with going on dates and such because the two people are committed to each other and have decided to show people how much they care for each other. Now a form of dating is long distance relationships. Long distance relationships are pretty self-explanatory. They can be very difficult, but if the two people are genuinely committed enough to make the relationship work; they can be the best relationships.
In my opinion, the best relationships are those that are held between two people who start out as best friends and then form into a relationship. At this point, because they are best friends it eliminates the awkward beginnings of getting to know each other and finding out the other’s past. I hope that this has helped you in your understanding of relationships and terminology.
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